Don’t you feel it is a weird but significant question? I can be wrong! But you simply can’t deny the fact that many people marry because of parental pressure. The only role they’re allowed to play is to spend time with their supposed soulmates and choose whether to spend their life with them or not. Marrying a stranger is not always a problem, but the problem is lying somewhere else. The new generation does believe in the YOU LIVE ONLY ONCE (YOLO) concept. They are looking for the life which they want to live. They do not want to be a puppet or a burden on someone else. After all, the question arises, What is marriage? Is there any need to marry someone? and much more. Let us have a ride with Travliv360 to explore it.
WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
I always say marriage is the most complex relationship yet the most beautiful. According to Science, marriage is significant in everyone’s life. Human beings are social animals, and thus we can not live alone. We always need society to survive, and a person who lives alone for a long time can suffer depression and anxiety issues. Let us go through legal definitions. What do they say?
Marriage is a formal union, social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. The contractual marriage agreement usually implies that the couple has legal obligations throughout their lives or until they decide to divorce. Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within. Traditionally, it plays a significant role in the preservation of morals and civilization. Now, we are aware of marriage, let us know the importance of marriage in our society.
WHY DO PEOPLE GET MARRIED?
Marriage is one of the most significant chapters in everyone’s life, which changes life manyfold. But the question arises IS THERE ANY NEED TO MARRY SOMEONE? Let us find out some incredible facts and unusual reasons.
- According to our parents, marriage eliminates all problems in life.
- The longer you wait, the less likely all say I DO. Who will see after 30 years of age get married out of this fear?
- Many times marriage is like the only aim of life.
- As we are aware, taking or giving dowry is a punishable offence. Many people still believe in this practice. Therefore, getting married will fetch the greed of owning valuables without spending a dime.
A FEW MORE REASONS:
- Many people just marry at the will of their parents or grandparents that are on their way to death. It is just because they want to see the marriage of a son/daughter or grandson/granddaughter, so they get married.
- Some people just marry to raise a family or the next generation.
- Marriage makes the relationship more beautiful. Therefore, you should marry.
There is always a need for society and the state for the development of human civilization. The first step of society is family, where family life begins with marriage. Therefore, the importance of marriage in the development of human civilization is immense. According to the law of cohabitation, it is the bond between two people who tend to live together.
THE IMPORTANCE OF MARRIAGE
A RELIGIOUS POINT OF VIEW:
Marriage is a significant phase of everyone’s life. It is a reliable source of peace in the hearts of men and women and the only legitimate way to build a relationship between them and a medium to protect the human character. If we talk about it from a religious point of view, then, every religion has some differences, but no religion cohabits without marriage. That is why the religion of humanity, the God-given way of life, has encouraged Islam to marry. Even Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran, Marry according to your choice.
A SOCIAL POINT OF VIEW:
A human being is a social creature who never stay alone. Everyone needs someone to count on. The journey of living together starts through marriage, and through marriage, two people start their journey together, sharing all their emotions, feelings, attachments, and sorrows. It is through marriage that a man and a woman become partners in each other’s activities. Love emerges between them, and start their own family. So it’s not wrong to say that the line of protection of lineage in human life is tied to marriage. It is the primary pillar of a family and even completes an imperfect person.
A SCIENTIFIC POINT OF VIEW:
The significance of marriage is not immense only from a religious and social point of view but also from a scientific side. In the United States, according to the Survey of The Harvard Health Publication, married men were healthier and lived longer than unmarried men. Over the past 150 years, many kinds of research and surveys have also shown that marriage is beneficial for health. According to Japanese scientists, people who have never been married are three times more likely to have cardiovascular disease (heart disease) than other married people. There is also saying that the risk of hypertension, stress, and heart attack decreases with marriage.
A PERSONAL POINT OF VIEW:
Most of us want to connect with others in some way. We always look for a person to whom we are committed at every phase of life. Marriage is always giving respect to your partner and making trust between each other. Hence, we stand together and never fall apart. Marriage is not only for being physical, but it is where we will have engaging moments and connect in some way with each other.
HOW CAN MARRIAGE CHANGE YOUR LIFE?
Marriage does not only bring a new beginning to your life, but it helps you cope with social problems that you might face in your quarter-life. That is why most people marry between 25-35 yrs of age. The quarter-life for humans is the phase of life when we get used to our family, friends, social life, parties and all the fun. After that, we seek some permanent settlement and a constant source of love and physical intimacy which we get in our partner, whom we marry!
The marriage also brings changes in your social life, as now you get to know about the friends and family of your partner where you meet new people, hang out with new people and your life changes many folds! You are no longer a bachelor, and we always need a change from time to time! Hence, marriage brings that change in your life when you are tired of everything else. Above all, it gives you a permanent partner to rejoice in your happiness, share your sadness and anxiety. Friends are always there for you, there is no doubt about that, but then, eventually, they also have their own lives. So they cannot be there for you all the time.
WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO PREFER?
Can you answer a question? For how long years will you bear everything alone? You need someone to understand you so that you do not feel depressed. There are always some things that even though friends and family can not understand, only a life partner can, and so you need marriage (or a live-in relationship). Although, live-in-relationships are not so common in India. Therefore, we go for marriage which binds you in a social relationship with a person. While in a live-in relationship, you need to build a strong trust and ample amount of honesty with each other for that to work out. All the relationships work out only on monogamy! The marriage is also a live-in relationship but after a grand and lavish party and a few ceremonies where humans have devised to tie a knot of love and togetherness between two partners.
Although, the WEDDING has nothing to do with MARRIAGE! Marriage is an alliance of a lifetime, while the wedding is an affair of one week or a few days where you celebrate. Therefore, one can marry without a wedding, for example, Court Marriage. Although yes, marriage holds great importance in human life. It does not mean BEING SINGLE is a curse or something that you cannot do, or something that will kill you. Ultimately, it all boils down to your personal choice. If you want to marry, then get married else try to fill the pot with some other fun activities. Nobody is forcing you! Ultimately, you have to do the only thing that keeps you happy and find your happiness in life. Does it matter if it lies in marriage or not?
SHOULD I MARRY SOME STRANGER OR NOT?
To marry someone is like giving a new beginning in life and you need to sacrifice a lot of things. You have to spend ample time with your to-be-soulmate to know whether you both can be together because you can marry now under your parents’ pressure. But later on in life, will they be there to support you? It is your life, and you have to decide whether you should marry or not? You have to take your stand on your behalf because none will come to take you along. Now the question arises, I either go about arranged or love marriage as there is a lot of confusion. There is lots of debate going on, what’s best – arranges marriage or love marriage.
Many people will say go for love marriage, whereas a few say arranged marriage is the right choice. It does not matter whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage. The couple can only stay together if they cooperate and understand each other. There may be a chance that you are avoiding the one for so long that you might be the person who can love you the most. Yes, it is hard to love someone else after being in deep love before. I am not married yet. So, I do not have personal experience, but I can suggest one thing is Acceptance.
WHY AM I WORRIED TO MARRY A STRANGER?
You have spent a lot of time with them to connect with them. If the one is incredible, then it will be better for you to accept it. You might be aware that NO RELATIONSHIP CAN BECOME STRONG IF ITS FOUNDATION IS WEAK. One has to be truthful to the partner because later on, he is the only person with whom you will share your whole life. You have to understand their feelings and cooperate with them. Will it be? There might be a chance where you have to sacrifice or compromise too. The courtship period is crucial where you both have the opportunity to know them better and the worst parts of each other. Should I worry about it?
After knowing and understanding your partner’s feelings and past, you both have to accept it and move on. Subsequently, both of you will start to fall in love with all the little things you do for each other. Initially, it will be a difficult task, but later on, both of you will synchronize and understand each other.
AUTHOR’S LAST WORDS
Stop living in the past because it has passed. Starting living in the present is only what makes you happy, so make your decisions wisely so that you never regret them. Stop thinking about the future, as no one knows what is there tomorrow, make amends and cooperate. There is no need to do anything that you do not like at all. You do not have to change yourself to become a different person from someone else. You have to amend the faults you see and understand your partner bringing out the best in you.
Whether it is a love marriage or arranged marriage, the relationship will work only if both the partners are solemn and honest. One should select life partners according to their own will and not by force or under parents’ pressure. People are taking time to understand each other these days before marrying someone because of one decision: you will get your shore or drown. Even though it is an arranged marriage. Making our own decisions is a sign of a progressive society.
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Story By: Bindiya Arora